As a human female, I’ve found that there are few things more appealing than the thought of being intimate with a man. However, whenever the topic of sperm comes up in conversation or even in movies, I always feel queasy and uncomfortable- so much so that I can't bring myself to watch anything that revolves around it.
Why is this? What causes me and other women to react this way? In this article, we'll explore several potential reasons why sperm makes us squeamish.
The Texture of Sperm Disgusts Us
Firstly, let's talk about texture. If you've ever watched porn (not me, someone told me), you know exactly what we mean. It is slimy and gooey - much like raw egg-white- which can be gross, especially if you are not fond of textures such as gooey pasta or super-fatty steak. Just thinking about the sensation/texture combination can be enough to turn one’s stomach!
Sexual Reproduction Is An Important Factor
Another reason for our adverse reactions may lie within nature itself! As creatures who have evolved over millennia through sexual reproduction, it could just simply take time for some people (like moi) to get used to male reproductive matter(shudder) coming into close contact with them!
Mind Over Matter plays a role
Moreover ,the mind-body connection also contributes heavily when it comes down to individual likes an dislikes.There may be real visceral reactions that many women experience on their first encounter with semen from sheer mental discomfort . This discomfort often leads them to avoid future encounters altogether! Even fear/sensitivity toward certain issues/ topics regarding sex play roles.
Aversion To Germs Is Common
We cannot forget how germaphobic people are becoming nowadays ! Paranoia over exposure/bodily fluids runs deeper therefore sensitivity towards semen as a bodily fluid is understandable.Verifying a partner's sexual background and std testing statuses are more important now than ever before. The fear of STIs alone can make people feel queasy when it comes to interacting closely with their partner’s 'secretions'.
Personal Experiences With Negative Sexual Encounters
One possible reason for discomfort around sperm might result from past negative experiences in the sack .This could be trauma, harassment or even coercion during sex/sexual contact which end up leaving psychological marks on individuals' psyche - reinforcing(?) their feelings of being unsafe or uncomfortable with certain situations.
When it Comes To Sperm-phobia, Don’t Be Too Hard On Yourself(no pun intended)
If you identify yourself as someone who exhibits these feelings of repulsion toward semen,you shouldn't judge yourself too harshly.To each, her own! However,Society especially men should learn to respect people's boundaries regarding issues surrounding body autonomy and consent.!
Women have different preferences sexually just like in everything else we indulge . Some women love having sperm all over them while some others find that intrusive.There is no right or wrong way to engage in intimacy.The issue solely lies when one person imposes his /her preference on another without express approval.
Practical Ways Of Dealing With The Discomfort
So what can one do when this squeamish feeling arises? Below are some practical strategies :
Communication : One effective strategy involves communication.Consulting partners pertaining likes an dislikes and conversing beforehand greatly helps bridge the awkwardness gap associated with intimacy.
Open-mindedness : Another strategy involves trying new strategies within your limits.Trial and error will help establish what works best for oneself.It definitely helps if there's open mindeness (wink wink).
Masturbatory practices: There may come times where receiving your partners discharge feels gross ,in those times Guide him to release elsewhere preferably NOT on you(tissues, towels) or just offer to jerk him off yourself.Change of preferences within limits is okay.
In conclusion, there are many reasons why women(specifically me and several others) may experience discomfort around sperm. Such feelings could be related to textures seen as slimy and gooey ,germaphobia trauma experienced during past sexual exploits or like in most cases just our preference.Simple strategies can help manage the situation .
Ladies,don't beat yourself up for your choices .Identify what works best for youas an individual , communicate these preferences with your partners accordingly.Who knows maybe one day it’ll be totally different…Puberty takes us through Lots of life altering changes after all!